Caring for Ourselves (as Parents!)

Partner, children, family members, friends, and colleagues…Sometimes, we are so busy taking care of everyone else, that we forget to take care of the person that should matter the most: Ourselves! Let’s look at some ways in which we can practise self-care.  

1. Mood boosters

   Reading a book? Exercising? Let’s take a moment to think about the activities that we would enjoy! Taking time off to prioritise activities that we enjoy can help to relieve stress and to elevate our moods! With our recharged energies, we are then better equipped to navigate the meaningful (and sometimes challenging) journey of parenthood with greater compassion and patience.  

2. Take breaks

   Like how a car cannot run without fuel, we too cannot function without adequate breaks. Even though we may feel fine, fatigue and exhaustion may (insidiously) build up and catch us off guard when we least expect it. Rather than waiting till we reach our limit, let’s take breaks on our own schedule. This gives our mind and body the break that it deserves.  

3. Set boundaries for our children 

   It can be difficult to say “no” to our children. After all, we love them and wish to pamper them. However, bearing the discomfort and setting boundaries can be helpful for both parties! It helps them to learn about what others expect of them while also making our parenting journey a lot easier! 

4. To err is human 

   As much as we would like to be the best parents to our children, we are still human – and humans make mistakes. Let’s be kind to ourselves and embrace learning from setbacks and growing as parents.

5. Ask for help 

   At times, we may feel angry, resentful, stressed, or guilty when we don’t live up to our own expectations. Take time to identify such feelings and potential causes. Share them with your partner to craft a workaround! This way, we can try to meet our own needs too. 

6. Let it out

   As parents, we may feel like we are supposed to be stalwart and ever strong for our children. But it’s okay to be vulnerable too. We don’t always need to put on a brave face. When things get overwhelming, let’s allow ourselves some time to process our emotions and take things one at a time. 

“You can't take care of anyone else unless you first take care of yourself”.

Let’s remember to prioritise our needs too!